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Mum with terminal small cell lung cancer stage 4

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Hi . My mum

was diagnosed with cancer in april . She was given 10months with treatment and 5 months without . She has had two lots of chemo then developed sepsis . I took time off work when she was diagnosed then went back to work ( I work in a hospice so this is very hard for me )  i’ve had to come off work again as mum was taken in to hospital with sepsis and she was very poorly . i now only have 4 weeks more sick pay at half pay then unpaid and may not be able to keep my job open for me …, i dont know what to do ? i want to try n go back to work while still caring for mum but the line of work is just too close to home right now .. surely wouldn’t i be allowed a period of time unpaid ??

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    Hi, I’m sorry you’re in this situation. I’ve been off work now for over a year caring for my partner who also has terminal lung cancer. I have a stage 4 disciplinary meeting in a few weeks where they will dismiss me on capability grounds. Similar to yourself I work in adult social work and I’m not capable at the moment to go back to that. It’s taken all my experience to be able to support my partner through this and I’ll be forever grateful for that but after 38 years in the job I’m devastated it will end like this. Looking back I wouldn’t change a thing even though the future is terrifying. Every moment is precious and if I can’t be there for my own then what am I? The very values that make us good at what we do have brought us to this point and I will never be made to feel ashamed of that. We will manage, not how it was but we will get there. Get advice, take all the support you can get and speak to occupational health who will support you through this. Keep your head up and take care xx

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    Hi, I’m sorry you’re in this situation. I’ve been off work now for over a year caring for my partner who also has terminal lung cancer. I have a stage 4 disciplinary meeting in a few weeks where they will dismiss me on capability grounds. Similar to yourself I work in adult social work and I’m not capable at the moment to go back to that. It’s taken all my experience to be able to support my partner through this and I’ll be forever grateful for that but after 38 years in the job I’m devastated it will end like this. Looking back I wouldn’t change a thing even though the future is terrifying. Every moment is precious and if I can’t be there for my own then what am I? The very values that make us good at what we do have brought us to this point and I will never be made to feel ashamed of that. We will manage, not how it was but we will get there. Get advice, take all the support you can get and speak to occupational health who will support you through this. Keep your head up and take care xx

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