Dad diagnosed with very aggressive stage 4 lung cancer

I’m still in shock and trying to take it all in, my father who is 69 years old  began losing weight with a persistent cough (he has been a heavy smoker for a  long time )  In just under 2 weeks he has been diagnosed with very aggressive stage 4 lung cancer, which has unfortunately spread to his lungs, kidneys and hip. The consultant said no cure and no treatment, he is now under the palliative team and I am looking after him at home. I have been told he may have weeks to live. It’s been so hard, I feel so sad especially for him as he was always so active, working in the allotment, He hasn’t left the house, as feels week and no energy. He is already taking the morphie in tablets and top up with the liquid if need be. It’s all just happening so fast, just devastating

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  • Hello there. I lost my beautiful husband 3 weeks ago after a long 20month battle with lung cancer.

    He had 4 sessions of chemotherapy followed by immune therapy which unfortunately did not suit him. In fact it caused inflammation and multiple blood clots on his lungs so they had to stop the treatment. After 8 months on a high dose of steroids to get rid of the inflammation he started another chemotherapy treatment. The oncologist was delighted that after 2 sessions his tumour had shrunk by 50% and was very happy for him to continue the last 2 sessions. After the last session of chemotherapy he had a scan which showed it had done a u turn and travelled into his legs and spine. We were devastated how can this happen after such good results. He couldn’t come to terms with it nor could I.  He was told he had but 2 weeks left to live and to put his house in order. I brought him home to care for him and the McMillan nurses arranged a hospital bed and wheelchairs for him, but his illness proceeded rapidly. He literally died in my arms and I felt his heart stop. This image is stuck in my head and I am struggling to deal with this grief, I will never get over the loss of him 46 years married to a wonderful man. He fought his battle so hard and accepted every treatment offered and this was so so cruel. My son is also looking for answers as to why this could happen and he also is struggling. We buried him last Tuesday and gave him the best send off ever and donations from family and friends we raised over £1800 for lung cancer research. I know that he would be happy for this money to go into research into this terrible disease and I don’t want anyone else to have to go through this experience. I feel your pain as well but I cry when I want and I find myself talking to his photos all the time.

    God Bless

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  • Hello there. I lost my beautiful husband 3 weeks ago after a long 20month battle with lung cancer.

    He had 4 sessions of chemotherapy followed by immune therapy which unfortunately did not suit him. In fact it caused inflammation and multiple blood clots on his lungs so they had to stop the treatment. After 8 months on a high dose of steroids to get rid of the inflammation he started another chemotherapy treatment. The oncologist was delighted that after 2 sessions his tumour had shrunk by 50% and was very happy for him to continue the last 2 sessions. After the last session of chemotherapy he had a scan which showed it had done a u turn and travelled into his legs and spine. We were devastated how can this happen after such good results. He couldn’t come to terms with it nor could I.  He was told he had but 2 weeks left to live and to put his house in order. I brought him home to care for him and the McMillan nurses arranged a hospital bed and wheelchairs for him, but his illness proceeded rapidly. He literally died in my arms and I felt his heart stop. This image is stuck in my head and I am struggling to deal with this grief, I will never get over the loss of him 46 years married to a wonderful man. He fought his battle so hard and accepted every treatment offered and this was so so cruel. My son is also looking for answers as to why this could happen and he also is struggling. We buried him last Tuesday and gave him the best send off ever and donations from family and friends we raised over £1800 for lung cancer research. I know that he would be happy for this money to go into research into this terrible disease and I don’t want anyone else to have to go through this experience. I feel your pain as well but I cry when I want and I find myself talking to his photos all the time.

    God Bless

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  • Thank you for sharing.  I am so sorry for your loss. Dad is deteriorating day by day, he has refused any type of food since yesterday and been in bed since  last night, he  managed  to use the toilet on his own but goes back to sleep straight after. The nurses have explained it’s normal that he is losing his appetite as his body no longer uses or restores energy in the same way and the cancer itself makes him very tired. I keep checking to see if he is ok and just always so frightened of what is coming. I pray that he will not suffer as for the last weeks he has suffered so much already with such news and how quickly it’s all happening. A bed is coming tomorrow. Thank you again, know that you everything possible under such horrible and cruel circumstances, big hug