Hello LyndaG, and first of all may I say how sorry I am for what you, your daughter and your husband are going through.  As you have discovered, cancer can do awful things to a person's thought processes.  Many years ago I took care of my Mum when she was dying from cancer, and finally she had to go in to hospital.  I went to visit her one night (after I had put in a full day's work at my job) and she said something so hurtful to me, that even now, nearly 30 years later, it brings tears to my eyes when I think about it.  However, I eventually realised that this wasn't my REAL Mum talking.........it was the cancer and also the powerful drugs she was on that was making her behave out of character.  Please don't think that your husband hates you.........he doesn't.  He hates the cancer, and as so often happens in life, when we are miserable and sad, we take it out on those we love.  In fact, I know for sure that if my Mum could come back just for five minutes, she would apologise to me.  I know it is VERY hard to understand that the person you love so much can be so unkind,  but it really isn't personal.  I am certain that your husband meant every word he said when he told you that he wouldn't be here if it wasn't for you.......he appreciates you and he loves both you and your daughter, please don't ever doubt it.  Cancer really messes with a person's mind.  I hope that I have given you a little bit of reassurance, and once again, so sorry for what you are going through.