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New baby and family terminal ill

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Any advice on how to cope with a new baby when your parent is terminally ill. It’s a new diagnosis and we don’t have long. I feel extremely conflicted with my priorities and don’t know what to do. I constantly keep crying, I m struggle to eat and getting very little sleep. I am looking after my baby who is doing very well but I feel incredibly guilty for being so sad.

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    I'm so sorry to hear of your parents diagnosis.  From my point of view, I would actually say you have to try and look after yourself first - eating and sleeping (what's that with a new born?!) so that you are able to help your baby and your parent. it's okay to feel sad too. For me I would want the baby to see its grandparent as much as possible, and in my family at least, I know that would help the grandparent too. Just be mindful if they need a rest.

    There is no right or wrong answer though IMO. It must be an incredibly difficult time and you need to go easy on yourself and you are allowed to have emotions - feeling sad or even happy at times!

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    I'm so sorry to hear of your parents diagnosis.  From my point of view, I would actually say you have to try and look after yourself first - eating and sleeping (what's that with a new born?!) so that you are able to help your baby and your parent. it's okay to feel sad too. For me I would want the baby to see its grandparent as much as possible, and in my family at least, I know that would help the grandparent too. Just be mindful if they need a rest.

    There is no right or wrong answer though IMO. It must be an incredibly difficult time and you need to go easy on yourself and you are allowed to have emotions - feeling sad or even happy at times!

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