Alone - husband refusing to tell family and friends about diagnosis and upcoming surgery

My husband  is refusing to tell family and friends about his diagnosis and upcoming surgery I will be staying at a hotel for a few days while he has it quite a way from home in a town I have never been to as I don’t drive  I will be so alone and anxious 

  • I was in a similar situation five years ago when my husband had an operation for stomach cancer. I told the hotel receptionist that I did not know about my length of stay because it depended on my husband's recovery. The staff could not have been more considerate and they made a point of asking me how he was getting on. If you spend some time in the hotel lounge other guests will talk to you and you will not feel alone. I also took the opportunity to spend time between visiting hours to look around town and purchase items which were needed in hospital. If you keep busy time will fly and you will soon be home! Of course you will be anxious but concentrate on the fact that your husband will be in good hands and will,in time, recover.

    Best wishes

    Anne

  • I've had this with my father. He was very reluctant to tell people. I explained from a bit of a selfish angle that I would find it difficult trying to explain to people when I needed to disappear from work for a few hours to take him to appointments. Plus other people to help support even if it's just a phone call or text to check how things are going. This is so tough dealing with each day I do feel guilty at times and not sure how the next few weeks months will go. Please keep in touch with any friends whilst your away and if the hospital where he is having surgery have any support for family. 

  • Thank you I will try but he is Adams no one is to know 

  • Thank you for the encouraging words