Hi Connollyab,

I'm really sorry to hear about your dad. I dont know exactly what you're going through as it was my husband that had cancer but what I can say though is when we had that meeting with the doctor and was told there's nothing more that can be done, it was one of the toughest days of both our lives. Im sorry you found out the way you did, that must have been difficult but my take on it is that your dad may have been doing it to try and protect you or maybe he hasnt fully processed it himself. My husband found telling our children that his cancer was terminal so incredibly hard. Also being sad is absolutely fine and I know for a few days after that meeting with the doctor, i felt numb and just didnt know what to do with myself. I was pretty useless. I then realised we had to make the most of whatever time we had left and put all of my effort into making happy memories. It of course wasnt all smooth sailing. But that would be my biggest bit of advice, focus on getting through each day the best you can and make each day memorable. Wishing you all the very best x