Hi Chessen, very sorry to hear about the difficulties you're having caring for your husband. My husband was similar in that he could be very stubborn and also had been very active until his lung cancer diagnosis. I understand the feeling of wanting to scream in frustration. I felt that the world seems to be going on around you whilst youre stuck in this difficult situation. I was just saying in another post about how when my husbands walking became affected it all went downhill. his mood changed and it became very difficult to motivate him to do anything and he found little joy in doing things he used to enjoy. One thing I did find helpful was he had a best friend who would come round once or twice a week. That would help brighten his mood and also give me a little break. Id go out and have some 'me' time and recharge. I also just had a thought, i dont know what medical teams your husband is under, but our palliative care team were simply amazing and offered a lot of support. Almost wished theyd been involved sooner as they just knew what to do. I also recommend what Ben said about Macmillan, I spoke to them a fair bit during the whole cancer journey and they gave lots of great advice and could also suggest and signpost me for additional support. I really hope things improve for you both x

Hi Chessen, very sorry to hear about the difficulties you're having caring for your husband. My husband was similar in that he could be very stubborn and also had been very active until his lung cancer diagnosis. I understand the feeling of wanting to scream in frustration. I felt that the world seems to be going on around you whilst youre stuck in this difficult situation. I was just saying in another post about how when my husbands walking became affected it all went downhill. his mood changed and it became very difficult to motivate him to do anything and he found little joy in doing things he used to enjoy. One thing I did find helpful was he had a best friend who would come round once or twice a week. That would help brighten his mood and also give me a little break. Id go out and have some 'me' time and recharge. I also just had a thought, i dont know what medical teams your husband is under, but our palliative care team were simply amazing and offered a lot of support. Almost wished theyd been involved sooner as they just knew what to do. I also recommend what Ben said about Macmillan, I spoke to them a fair bit during the whole cancer journey and they gave lots of great advice and could also suggest and signpost me for additional support. I really hope things improve for you both x

Thank you for your caring and helpful reply. We do have MacMillan involved and they are very helpful. My husband doesn't really do 'besties' or much socialising, but the idea is a good one and I will see if I can find someone with whom he would just like to chat. It is so hard when they are stubborn and it's  "my way or the highway."  Wishing you and your husband all the best and hope he recovers x