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Husband just diagnosed with Bowel Cancer

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Hi All,

My lovely husband has just been diagnosed in the last 3 days with bowel cancer.  We are just waiting to see how far developed it is as to what treatment he is going to receive.  He is incredibly fit and healthy and if he hadn't done the screening test sent to him we would have known no different.  My problem is that although he is fit and well AND incredibly positive I, on the other hand, am really struggling with it.  I am trying to be strong for him but I keep having relapses and I'm terrified of losing the only person in my life.

He has no symptoms whatsoever and has actually just started a sponsored walk for prostate cancer with our dog.  I think what I'm asking is how do people cope in my position and try and stay strong.  I wish so much I had my husbands outlook on life.  He's a pure bred optimist and I'm the original pessimist.

Thanks everyone x

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    Some great and positive responses in this thread. I think it's worse for the significant other than the person going through it some ways. We get the sympathy, the attention and all the care. It's *** and I wouldn't wish it on anyway - but we get looked after. My surgeon was also amazing... positive, friendly and above all professional - he got the job done.

    I'll never forget my wife saying "we fight this together" it meant the world to me. The wait to see if it's spread is horrendous - I had a spot on my liver on my scans, luckily it was nothing.

    The worst side effect for me from Chemo, particular post surgery, was the sickness in the first cycle. if that had continued, I wouldn't have done a second cycle. The fantastic oncologist and nurses quickly adjusted drugs and got on top of it though. The funniest was the weird tingling of colder things on my hands and feet - I had to wear gloves to hold knives and forks :D

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    Some great and positive responses in this thread. I think it's worse for the significant other than the person going through it some ways. We get the sympathy, the attention and all the care. It's *** and I wouldn't wish it on anyway - but we get looked after. My surgeon was also amazing... positive, friendly and above all professional - he got the job done.

    I'll never forget my wife saying "we fight this together" it meant the world to me. The wait to see if it's spread is horrendous - I had a spot on my liver on my scans, luckily it was nothing.

    The worst side effect for me from Chemo, particular post surgery, was the sickness in the first cycle. if that had continued, I wouldn't have done a second cycle. The fantastic oncologist and nurses quickly adjusted drugs and got on top of it though. The funniest was the weird tingling of colder things on my hands and feet - I had to wear gloves to hold knives and forks :D

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