Hi AliT,

Sorry to hear of your husbands diagnosis - it;'s a shock at the best of times, but especially when you have no symptoms

Good news is, sounds like they've caught it early and your husband is positive. This was the key for us - Mine was stage 3 and I'm now 3 years post diagnoses and bowel cancer free :) From the initial diagnosis, my wife and I said we'd fight this together and we did. My wife and my kids were my focus for getting through it. It's good he doesn't need Chemo and/or Radio before the surgery. I did and that 5 weeks was tough but we got through.

The surgery for me turned from keyhole to fully open as the tumour was quite twisted in. I don't expect this will be the same for your husband. I didn't have pain afterwards, though it took a while for my bowel to start working and I had a few more complication, possibly related to a condition I have. With the care of the AMAZING NHS, my wife and kids, I was soon enough (well, not for me!) home and recovery went well. I had a stoma for a year and now that's revered. The only issue I have is that i needed to put weight back on ... I just forgot to stop :D

It's 100% natural to worry and strangely although I'm naturally a worrier, I'm also stubborn and determined to get my own way - which was beating cancer. You will both have moments when you're down, and maybe need a cry and a hug that's natural. Be there for each other in these moments and you will get through this. Don't be afraid to ask for help from anyone who offers.

Then take the opportunity to do all the things you love and enjoy a long and happy life :)

Thank you so much for that lovely reply.  I’m so pleased your recovery went well.  You sound just like my husband…..very determined to beat this.  Well he’s now 7 weeks post surgery and things couldn’t have gone better.  His surgeon, an absolutely amazing man, said he had one chance to get it all out……and he did it.  Husband is now completely cancer free and no need even for radio or chemotherapy.  They said it was textbook and couldn’t have gone better.  

Hes back in 3 months to start his stoma reversal although he’s talking about keeping it so he doesn’t have to eat any of that green s**t ie, broccoli kale spinach cabbage etc .  We put our summer holiday on hold but we’ll definitely do something when his reversal has gone ahead.  He’s managing his stoma like a pro but gets anxious if he needs to empty it and he’s not anywhere to do so.  

We’ve slotted straight back into a normal life routine and I don’t think it’s really hit us yet how close he was to a different outcome however the consultant said it may never hit us and to keep looking forward not think about the what ifs.  Great advice.

look after yourself and your loved ones.  We’ve all been pretty lucky haven’t we.  

x x 

We have been lucky - I always thought that was a strange thing to say by people who had / were affected by cancer but we now know the outcome could have been much worse.

I'm delighted your husband is on the mend it all sounds perfect! I'm also the same with the Green stuff (it's a policy to not eat it :D ) One of the first things I said to my surgeon was that I really didn't one. When I came around the first thing he did was apologise that I had to have one fitted - I did not care at that point. It's amazing how you get used to it, and it becomes very much part of you. I do get the Anxiety - it just adds a little pressure when you're out and about. I managed Washington DC with one though as I was determined it wouldn't stop me.

get that holiday booked and enjoy every minute of the time ahead. I'm so happy you had a positive outcome :)

We have been lucky - I always thought that was a strange thing to say by people who had / were affected by cancer but we now know the outcome could have been much worse.

I'm delighted your husband is on the mend it all sounds perfect! I'm also the same with the Green stuff (it's a policy to not eat it :D ) One of the first things I said to my surgeon was that I really didn't one. When I came around the first thing he did was apologise that I had to have one fitted - I did not care at that point. It's amazing how you get used to it, and it becomes very much part of you. I do get the Anxiety - it just adds a little pressure when you're out and about. I managed Washington DC with one though as I was determined it wouldn't stop me.

get that holiday booked and enjoy every minute of the time ahead. I'm so happy you had a positive outcome :)