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My partner has just been diagnosed with prostate cancer its very early and its slow growing although he has been told it is curable and he will live a normal life he has even been told to have his holiday 1st May before any treatments. 

He can't seem to help thinking the worst is going to happen its as if he doesn't trust what the consultant says. He is questioning everything and its so draining trying to be positive for both of us. I know this seems so selfish but I am such an optimistic and he isn't so makes life harder and draining on a normal day. 

Anyone been in a similar situation and went on holiday in the early stages before treatment?? 

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    Morning AHCAR and a warm welcome to the forum though sorry you have to be here and that your partner has prostate cancer PCa. It's a difficult time emotionally being told you have cancer and the waiting for tests, results and treatment to start makes it harder. When it does he will feel better, and as his PCa has been caught very early, as you say treatment will be done with intent to cure  A holiday is a great idea and there are no reasons the PCa should be a problem. I and a few friends have been on holidays both at home and abroad before treatment and the only problem was getting insurance without getting ripped off, from a fellow optimist, enjoy your holiday and best of luck with treatment, PS Insurancewith, really good for insurance for people with cancer. take care.

    Eddie

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    Hi Eddie 

    Thank you for a quick reply. I thought I was taking the news ok. Today I have woke up numb and on auto pilot and I am off to work now until 7pm. My partner wants to ring the hospital and speak to one of his nurses on Monday again for reassurance about the holiday even though the consultant had told him to take the holiday. I was happy to cancel or move it but he said he just needs the assurance from the nurses again as I think the first time he didn't take it in properly 

    Ashley 

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    Hi Ashley, having cancer is a couples disease  I have been both carer and cared for and I couldn't say which is harder, so I'm not surprised it's affecting you, i would be more surprised if it didn't, Your partner will have a dedicated specialist nurse, lead clinical nurse LCN at urology, and cancer nurse specialist CNS at oncology, always good to have their contact details to be able to contact them as they will be part of his clinical team and a lot easier to speak to than the consultant,

    Eddie

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    Thanks Eddie. Wow yes you have been through it. He is going to ring the nurse Monday and speak to them and hopefully it puts his mind at ease in some way in respect of holidaying before or putting it back too. I just know I will start and feel better when he gets his treatment and we see some light as seeing him worry without telling me he is worrying is really affecting me but we see what Monday brings thank you so much for understanding and replying 

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