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Justme7
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My husband is having chemotherapy. He has had cancer which has spread for 5 years.  Tablets stopped working so chemo is a last resort to extend what time he has left.   I know I am not alone in this role as wife and caregiver.  But it does feel like it.    New to area and  have a few friends all with their own worries and families .  I have Children and grandchildren, busy lives but they do what they can for us.  It’s so hard to see loved ones going through this awful disease.   I what to help him but I can’t make it better.    Bless you all that are fighting this  or caregiving.  xx

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    Hello Justme7 and a warm welcome to the forum though i am really sorry to hear about your husband. Having been both carer and cared for i know it's just as hard for both, In some ways it is harder for the carer. Justme7 I have terminal cancer and though i am doing ok now my partner and i both know what is to come, and having my wonderful partner to support  and care for me when it is time, and most of all knowing it's by the woman i love will make my time much less difficult. Which is all the help i want. take care.

    Eddie

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    Hello I totally feel the same way as you. I’ve only been with my partner for 18 months and he was diagnosed with multiple myeloma in November he has been having chemotherapy every week which has really taken its  toll on him. He is currently in hospital with pneumonia and the consultant has said that he is now very high risk. I’m struggling as he wants to give up because he feels so unwell. I feel totally useless. This time last year we were at our happiest time and now we are at the saddest it’s horrendous watching someone you love go through this isn’t it. 
    I hope you are ok and I suppose knowing we are not alone helps a little. Xx

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    Sorry I have taken so long to reply to you.  Thank you for the lovely kind words ,   Your partner sounds wonderful and I wish you both well.  My husband has said similar things and I do feel that we are doing this together.  I feel so sad for him and worried for him but I will always be there .. and I hope that is enough .. but your message has helped.  I am glad that you have love .  All the best to you . 

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    Thank you so much I too will always be there for him whatever he decides to do it’s his choice and I will support him and live him always. 
    take care of yourself too as this takes its toll on us too xx

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