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My wife was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on 18th dec 23 

we are trying to come to terms with it, and trying to get more information 

we are dealing with it ourselves, and I’m caring for her, no help so far, 

and she is only 64, I feel helpless and useless 

trying to deal with everyday issues, trips to hospital, my friends have been really good, 

Apparently pancreatic cancer as only a 8% servival rate, 

  • Welcome to the Cancer Chat forum Maslow although I'm sorry to hear your wife has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.

    This must be a very difficult time for you both but I'm glad you've reached out to us as our community will understand what you're going through and I'm sure some of them will stop by soon to offer you their support and advice.

    I hope this information we have about pancreatic cancer and advice on how to support someone with cancer will be useful but if you'd like to discuss any of this further with one of our cancer nurses you can do so on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

    You can also get further information, support and advice from Pancreatic Cancer UK.

    We're here for you Maslow and wishing you and your wife all the very best on this journey.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi Maslow. I was diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer which had already spread to the liver and lymph nodes. Given months rather than years to live, that was end of August last year. I started chemotherapy ( my only option) in October. Had some yesterday. 

    I can't talk to husband about the cancer, he just says oh you're tough you can beat it. I tend to push him away and be angry with him. I can speak all day to two of my friends about it but haven't even told my brother or sisters yet. Don't know how or where to start. I feel so isolated and guilty. How can we cope? 

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    Hi Linda, that’s awful, I’m supporting my wife fully, I’ve given up work to look after her, you must tell your siblings, let it out, poor you, you need support, don’t feel guilty, please reach out, will help you, I hope you do, and that it helps, and your entitled to be angry with your husband, best of luck to you in your journey

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    Thanks Maslow that really means a lot.

    The links Moderator Steph has given you are great, really informative.

    I think we need to be fully aware of the disease, treatments and choices to be made.

    I was 64 when I was diagnosed too. Husband says the same as you, he feels helpless and useless. At least you are looking for information, he won't.

    Best of luck to you and your wife at this awfully scary time

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