My Mum has breast cancer in stomach and now bowel. Of course she’s poorly. 

But I feel that she’s gone already. Her character has gone, her sparkle, she seems depressed but she said she’s not. 

She doesn’t want to do anything or go anywhere. She doesn’t seem particularly happy to hear from me whereas she used to chat forever. 

it’s hit me that really, the person she was has left already. And nothing I can do can change that. 

im very much struggling with it. Can’t even make her laugh anymore. 

My brother copes by minimising contact as he says it brings him down. He has done a lot practically - an awful lot - to make her more comfortable in her surroundings, but she doesn’t seem happy with that either. 

it’s just as though the light has gone out. 

Can anyone relate? 

thanks.