My lovely mum had the all clear from cancer 10 years ago, earlier this year she had a recurrence which at first they thought was localised and could be dealt with by surgery and preventive chemo and radiotherapy. However a scan revealed it had unfortunately spread to distant lymph nodes making her stage 4 incurable.
Obviously we were all devastated but she started chemo straight away which she tolerated well and a CT scan in August showed no further growth or spread and I was over the moon and began to think that if the chemo was working things might not be as bleak as they seemed.
Today we got the news that the cancer has now spread to her hip bone, I am absolutely distraught and cannot stop crying and googling. They have come up with a new chemo plan and plan to do a hip pin to prevent fracture but I can't stop thinking that this is the beginning of the end. I have a 2 year old and she is the most fantastic grandmother and I can't bear the fact that she won't see her grow up.
My partner is supportive especially as his own mum overcame oesophagus cancer a couple of years ago which was quite advanced but I think sometimes he doesn't know what to say when I'm so emotional. My mum also is quite a closed book and doesn't like to talk about things in fear of upsetting us and herself.
Can anyone recommend any coping methods or places to seek support from for situations like this?