Starshine4 I feel your pain and your struggle. I am going through this my self right now. With that being said I have wife and daughter and for them I have to push through and for my mum of course as she would want me to be happy and do good in life its just devastating how fast everything changed… All I know that with time we all be happy again and find ourselves in peace knowing that our loved ones are watching over us from heaven… I know it’s painful but for them we have to push it through and remember that emafter very dark night there is always bright day. I’m sending prayers for you and your family 

Yes this is one of the things I’m finding the hardest…the change to everyday life of living with mum!!

I agree our mums would want us to fight on and enjoy our lives.I too believe that she will be looking down on me from heaven, hopefully giving me strength and keeping me safe.

thank you for your prayers and send them back to you.

Yes this is one of the things I’m finding the hardest…the change to everyday life of living with mum!!

I agree our mums would want us to fight on and enjoy our lives.I too believe that she will be looking down on me from heaven, hopefully giving me strength and keeping me safe.

thank you for your prayers and send them back to you.

Be strong, not for yourself but for your mum, remember regardless of how is your mum feel right now she as a mum would t want to see you suffer in any way especially suffer because of her being not well… embrace the good things, memorise the good days, and don’t get to hung up on future because it hasn’t happen yet and live in present and good past memories, smile because that what she would wanted… that’s all we can do, and that’s all what we must do for our mums. She wouldn’t want us to remember the bad things so for your mum keep your head up, I know you will make it and there will be a time when you will smile again. Time will heal everything, and I will keep remembering all the good stuff, because that will help me go through life knowing she is watching over me from heaven and so will your mum.

I am going through this just like you and lots of other people, I was asking myself why this happen to me mum and me but then I realise we are not special and other going through the same. So let’s make the best of worse and keep our prayers and we will make it through this for our mums as that’s what they would wanted 

Thank you, take care

Hi, I hope you don't mind me asking.  But how is your mum doing xx

Not good!! She had an episode last night where her blood pressure dropped massively and they phoned me to come in just incase, but when I got there her observations had gone back to what they’d been previously. So at the moment she is back stable but has vety slow speech and sleeps a lot x

Sending you a big hug.   I lost my mum to cancer 5 weeks ago so I know exactly how you are feeling.   If you ever need a chat I'm always here xx

Thank you!! Mum passed away on Thursday morning!! It’s not only the loss of my lovely mum, but my whole life will be different now because of the circumstances mentioned. It’s very overwhelming and heartbreaking. I can’t believe it wasn’t even 2 weeks between her finding out she had cancer and passing away!! I don’t know what I’ll do without her, she was my rock!! Xx

I am so sorry to hear that, my heart goes out to you xxx

Hi Starshine,

I am so very sorry to hear this and I send my deepest condolences. This will be a particularly hard time for you with, all sorts of new challenges, but you will get through it. Don't look too far ahead, just take things one day at a time. Do you have a nice photo of your mum? After my mum died, I placed one in a prominent place and I often found myself talking to it - this may sound daft, but I got a lot of comfort from that.

I have accepted your friend request and I am always here if you want to chat.

Thinking of you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx