How sad to read your post , I’m so sorry you’re going through all this as well as your IVF. No you can’t reassure her but you can consider the following : Your mum has probably gone into mum mode and didn’t want calls because she doesn’t want to hurt her children . You could write to her and tell her how much you love her and go and visit as soon as you are able . You could send her a note every few days . There is support available for you and your mum . You can ring any of the cancer helplines and Maggie’s is very good. I hope you find a way to deal with all this ( you will) and all the best with your IVF XX

I'm going through the exact same thing ,hence I'm.on here.  My mum was diagnosed 2 months ago with pancreatic cancer that has spread to her liver.  The doctor told me 3 months without chemo.  She's having palliative chemo atm. But I can see that's she deteriorated rapidly.   I feel so sorry for her ,she lost her husband on a Monday and on the Friday got diagnosed.  I have contacted the hospice to ask if one of the counselling team can talk to her about of life,because from me ,how would that conversation start? Lately she is very depressed. But I know she must be so scared of dying. Especially reading that sven Goran Ericsson died of the same thing and lasted 7 months.  My mind is all over the place and it's a very heartbreaking and strange feeling to be in .   I feel bad leaving her even for an hour and I just don't know what to do or how to think