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My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer 3 months ago 

He has had a radical prostatectomy. 

I am so confused and hurt. My daughter and son in law haven't been near nor by and live 10 mins down the road. I have done so much for them and it's breaking my heart that they never ask how my husband is. 

My brother is indifferent and I feel very alone. 

Why are people like this?

My daughter is nurse and she offered to take us to appointments but has two young kids and I didnt want to put them out.. 

She now doesn't even ask although I give her lots of information she shrugs it off as if it's not her Dad .

The family have been very strange since his diagnosis it's breaking my heart. 

I have a once fit healthy husband now in diaper pads and catheter. I was a nurse so I can't understand their indifference. 

Has anyone else had this response. They have never been that engaged with any illness 

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    Hi KattyB,

    I’m afraid I can’t offer any advice, but please know you are not alone. My husband was diagnosed with bowel cancer in Feb 2022 & we found out in the June it has spread to his liver. He was responding well to treatment but unfortunately it’s growing again in his liver & he’s on treatment now which makes him feel pretty rubbish. He’s incredibly strong mentally & physically & we’re lucky to have great friends & my siblings - albeit they are some distance away. My husband is one of five & bar his elder brother we have heard nothing from the others. They came to his birthday party & all get on. But we don’t even get a “thinking of you” text, if nothing else. I don’t care about me- but it breaks my heart for my husband & children. We have no parents & much of my family is overseas. I know all families are different but I find it very strange & it makes me incredibly angry. I hope things can improve for you & you get the support you need, from the people you love. Xx

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    Hi KattyB,

    I’m afraid I can’t offer any advice, but please know you are not alone. My husband was diagnosed with bowel cancer in Feb 2022 & we found out in the June it has spread to his liver. He was responding well to treatment but unfortunately it’s growing again in his liver & he’s on treatment now which makes him feel pretty rubbish. He’s incredibly strong mentally & physically & we’re lucky to have great friends & my siblings - albeit they are some distance away. My husband is one of five & bar his elder brother we have heard nothing from the others. They came to his birthday party & all get on. But we don’t even get a “thinking of you” text, if nothing else. I don’t care about me- but it breaks my heart for my husband & children. We have no parents & much of my family is overseas. I know all families are different but I find it very strange & it makes me incredibly angry. I hope things can improve for you & you get the support you need, from the people you love. Xx

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