I learned today that five years ago, shortly after my father died suddenly from a stage 4 glioblastoma brain tumour, my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer. She chose not to tell any of us and underwent an operation, telling my brother and I it was a routine gynaecological op. A cancerous tumour was removed, as were neighbouring lymph nodes.
I only know about it because I took a phone message when I was at her house, saying her thoracic surgeon would be calling this morning to discuss her yearly CT scan. My mother then told me about the cancer five years ago, reluctantly, saying it was her business and she would deal with it. The discussion with the surgeon revealed changes that may signify the cancer has returned.
My mother and I have always been incredibly close and I'm struggling to understand why she didn't tell me and didn't let me help and support her through what must have been a dreadful time, and why she is still reluctant now to let me help. She is 82 and on her own and she needs all the help she can get.
If anyone can give me any insight I would be really grateful.
Thank you
