Hi All, 

Didn't really know where to go. I'm in the thirties and I just found out yesterday my Dad has advanced Prostate Cancer. He's in his early 70's and really healthy. He been told he needs hormone therapy and radiotherapy. He gave me the impression that then they'd assess and he may or may not need more treatment etc but may be fine. However from reading on here and Prostate Cancer website advanced prostate cancer isn't curable it's all about prolonging life and reducing symptoms. 

I'm guessing he knows that but it's a lot to take in and he probaby doesn't want to face up to it yet which I understand. My kids don't know yet they are all Primary School age I believe in being very honest with them but I'm trying to work out the best way to explain this to them. My Dad isn't that keen on telling them much at the moment which is his right. But I l also am aware that months is long to them so I don't want to give them information that is in timescales that's beyond them. My two eldest have additional needs which means I know they won't manage this well and are very likely to get incredibly behaviourally challenging as they don't have the ability to empathise or think of others really. Also means they are very black and white and struggle to understanfd complex things when explained verbally. 

 Tomorrow is my daughters birthday and I really don't feel like being cheerful and making the effort but I know I have to. I'm already snappy and lacking patience. Which then I feel guilty about. 

I guess a few things

1. How do people psychologically manage the indefinte nature of incurable but no specific time scale cancer? 

2. Are there any good resources to support children in their understanding? Particularly those with Autism or social and emotional difficulties. 

3. Any other top tips for generally managing to carry on with life and what needs doing? 

Thanks x