Hi,

First post.... too long a story to put everything here. But we lost mum in October.(after 25 years of suffering)..dad was her full time carer. She died 10 days after buying a bigger house so  parents could move in with us to look after both of them‍♀️ as dad (73) got diagnosed with advanced cancer in September... he's on HRT but due to lots of other medical conditions he can't have any other treatment. 3 months ago he had one tumour in hip now has two.. its grade 8 on Gleason score. No idea how long we will have him for but want to make  him as comfortable as possible as seems to be in lots of pain and v sleepy during day. Doctor given him meds to manage pain better but think meds making him sleepy (which is fine but he's fighting it... typical father!). I was thinking a massage might help pain in back/hip but wondered if anyone else had any ideas? He's a typical bloke and doesn't want fuss but I want to be able to ease his suffering somehow if I can. He's still active etc.. so that's good. I bought him a massage gun thing at Xmas but even on softest setting it's too strong for him. Any advice would be appreciate. Thanks so much Katie