My Dad won’t seek help

Hi all. I’m posting here because I don’t know what else to do. We think my dad has cancer, from the symptoms he has we think it’s Esophagus cancer. The problem is he will not see a doctor! He is 67 and is of sound mind but we are all so very worried that he’s not got much longer left. He can’t swallow, my mom has to blend his food, he’s constantly being sick or spitting into the sink. His voice is getting harder to understand, it sounds like someone has their hand around his throat (sorry that’s the best way I can describe it) and he’s lost a massive amount of weight, you can see his bones through his clothes. He lost control of his bowels last week in his sleep and then stayed in bed for the day but seemed to recover from that ok so I think that may just have been a bug. Im so sorry for the long post I just don’t know what to do. Im so worried for my mom too, She still works and is also taking care of my Dad when he needs it. She’s told him she wants to get doctors involved but he’s warned her off. Any advice would be gratefully received.

Thanks for reading

  • Absolutely! Yes he was so open about it all today and it felt so easy to be able to talk about it with him. My poor mom is mentally exhausted, but she's happy that these steps have been taken now but she was hoping he would have been admitted to hospital today and he was prepared for that too so she says. It's just a matter of waiting for appointments and procedures now, but the hardest job is done and that's him seeking the help he needs. 
    Oh that's lovely to read, these times you can feel quite alone which ever the end of the situation you're in. Thanks again and hope you're well too xx

  • Hi if you don't mind me asking how did your dad get on as I am going through this at the moment my dad has had in once but I'm worried it has come back and he didn't want to go the Drs