Really worried about my mum.

My mum is 79. She has been a smoker since 14. She has had a rattling cough on waking for years although it improves through the day. She has been complaining about back pain for weeks. Her appetite has been diminishing since around March. She has replaced her mattress twice in a month but the back pain is getting worse. It seems to be worse at night. Over the last few days she has all but stopped eating. She will pick at cold foods and ice cream. She has lost a dramatic amount of weight in a fortnight. She has been quite active until about a week ago including walking her dog but is no longer doing anything other than lying on her bed. Fortunately she lives with us so I am able to do things for her. She won’t go to the doctor, largely because she is afraid. I’m obviously very worried but I can’t do anything until she either gets worse to the extent I can call an ambulance or agrees to see the GP. Any advice gratefully received. 

  • Hello Cillabub

    I'm sorry to hear about your Mum's situation. It certainly sounds as if she would benefit from seeing a doctor, even if just for better pain management. 

    Our nurse team don't work weekends, so you won't receive a reply from them until Monday when they are back in the office. I wonder if your Mum might agree to you calling NHS 111 for some advice over the weekend. They can always arrange for a doctor to call out and see her if she's not physically capable of travelling to see someone. 

    If you want to speak with one of our nurses, you can call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm. 

    I do hope that your Mum and you can access the support needed soon. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator