Hello,

My partner of four years’ mum has brain cancer, diagnosed about 6 years ago. In the years that me and my partner have been together she has had MANY strokes, she recently had an MRI and has been having discussions about surgery.

These discussions have developed into a meeting with a potential surgeon and doctor in Bristol to talk further about this. 

A few days ago my partner, his mum and myself were in the car and my partner got out to put petrol in the car, his mum asked me how he was doing, I said that he was okay, a little down about the news but ok, she then told me that if this surgery were to go ahead she would have a 25% chance of survival, and that she had not told my partner nor his sister about this, and has avoided telling him any details about the surgery as she does not want to worry him. I did not know what to say or how to handle that information, and before I could think to say anything meaningful my partner returned back in the car. 

I don’t know what to do, I feel overwhelmed with the information and I feel guilty for not telling my partner but also feel guilty to tell him behind his mother’s back. How do I go about this? Or should I simple not do anything?