I care for my mum who 92 and has vulval cancer . She doesn’t want any invasive treatment , just management . At the moment she’s taking a baseline amount of painkillers - just paracetamol. She’s keen to still “live” and stay alert whilst she can. She’s up and down around 4 times in the night redressing her cancer as it’s so sore and uncomfortable. Is there anything topical she can use or any advice to help her get through the night ?

I feel we’ve just been left as she doesn’t want treatment. No one checks on her