Hello and thank you for posting.

I am very sorry to hear about your husband and his diagnosis of advanced bladder cancer.

Some patients do have problems with pain, but your husband should be referred to the palliative care team, who are experts in symptom control. They will get to know you and your husband at home and work with the GP and district nurses to provide emotional support and help his quality of life.

I cannot comment too specifically on what the doctor said to your husband, but palliative care teams are very used to managing symptoms in patients like your husband so will know how to help and support you.

Take care and I hope you have support at this time, if you want to talk to the nurses on the helpline do call 0808 800 4040. Lines are open mon-fri 9-5.

Sarah.