Hi Queen,

I am so sorry to hear of your situation. I had 2 bouts of breast cancer 14 years ago and had the same problem as you with fatigue and depression. My husband has since been diagnosed with skin cancer. I saw my GP and reluctantly allowed her to prescribe an anti-depressant, to see if it made any difference. The change in my mood was nothing short of miraculous. I still haven't found a solution to the exhaustion and, even after all these years, I still need a nap in the afternoon. 

I was caring for a handicapped cousin of my husband's at the time that I was diagnosed. He lived some distance from us, but although still living on his own, he wasn't really capable of living independently.  He fell in his house and was unable to get up again. He lay for 4 hours, until his neighbour noticed his meals on wheels still hanging on the front door, when he returned from work. He spent 6 weeks in hospital, but got quite a fright from this experience and didn't want to return home. We had to take action for his own safety. We eventually found a place for him in a nursing home closer to us. In the end, he was happier in the home and we spent more quality time with him, when we visited, as we didn't  have to carry out his household chores when we visited.

Would it be possible for you to get some carers involved for your son, or to find a day centre facility? It would be worth discussing this with your GP, or social worker. I know that I found it impossible to look after myself at times, never mind looking after someone else.

I sincerely hope that you find a solution. Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx