Hello Dee775 and thanks for the post

I am sorry to hear about your friends situation, this must be a very difficult time for everyone involved.

It can be difficult to know how to support someone when they have cancer and when there is a distance involved this can makes things even harder.

We have a section of information about supporting family, friends and carers and cancer on our website so do take a look.

The needs of a person undergoing treatment are often ever changing and checking in with a friend or family member at regular intervals to see how they are is really important as this often changes. Asking them directly if there is anything in particular they need, or indirectly asking other members of her family or friends how you can help.

Some people send cards or gifts as a gesture that they are thinking of them but this is very individual and only you will know what is best for your friend.

You may also wish to arrange a convenient time to go and visit your friend if this is possible, although this may involve some planning on both parts.

I hope this is of some help to you.

Please get back to us if you need any more information or support.  You may find it helpful to talk things through with one of the nurses on our helpline.  The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

All the best to you and your friend

Naomi

Thankyou Naomi, I will look.at the link that you have provided. Thankyou for the advised and information. 

Take Care 

Hi

im in a similar situation with my mum, she’s in London and I’m in Scotland.

I’ve found regular Face Time calls really helpful we grab a cuppa n have a long chat.

Not sure if your friend is in a relationship, my mum is single so I have asked if during all appointments if she can call me and put the call on speaker phone so I can hear what is being said and ask questions.  This lets me offer a bit more support and it’s always great to get a different perspective on things.