My dad’s terminal diagnosis

My dad was diagnosed in October 23 with oesophageal cancer and had weeks of chemotherapy with no change . He then developed lung fibrosis and wasn’t able to have any invasive surgery! He now has a feeding tube but today got told it has spread to his lymph nodes and he is refusing treatment! How long is he likely to have left with us? I’m devastated to say the least but want to have some idea of planning my final time with him.

thank in advance x

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  • Hello Reeceb76, I am so sorry about your dad.  I have lost many friends and family members to this monstrous disease (as well as now having it myself) and I think that from what you have said, your dad has perhaps got weeks rather than months left.  Cancer is extremely unpredictable, so please be aware that your dad MIGHT live longer than anyone expects, but if I was you, I would be preparing that your dad has probably not got very long to live.  Please forgive me if I have been too honest with you, the last thing I want to do is to cause more pain to those folks who are already suffering so much, but I think you would rather hear the truth than sugar-coating wouldn't you?  Once again, I am so sorry for what you and your dad are going through, my thoughts are with you.  

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  • Hello Reeceb76, I am so sorry about your dad.  I have lost many friends and family members to this monstrous disease (as well as now having it myself) and I think that from what you have said, your dad has perhaps got weeks rather than months left.  Cancer is extremely unpredictable, so please be aware that your dad MIGHT live longer than anyone expects, but if I was you, I would be preparing that your dad has probably not got very long to live.  Please forgive me if I have been too honest with you, the last thing I want to do is to cause more pain to those folks who are already suffering so much, but I think you would rather hear the truth than sugar-coating wouldn't you?  Once again, I am so sorry for what you and your dad are going through, my thoughts are with you.  

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