Hi, not a nurse, but honestly, I'm 46 and have suffered with a very lazy bowel for the past few years. Similar to yourself, short-term solutions work but as soon as my gut gets used to them them I'm back to constipation. 

Also, like yourself, I don't tick cancer red flags (I know you think you are) so won't be referred for a colonoscopy because of that. 

I understand you're fixated that it can only be cancer, but I think lazy bowel (esp post-menopause) is very common and the more remedies you take then the more dependent your bowel becomes on them so when you try to go naturally, you find you can't. This is especially true of laxatives

Have you ever been prescribed a stool softener like Macragol? 

Thanks so so much for replying it means a lot . Friday last week I was given moviicol orange sachets and bottle lactulose now it’s just like watery substance coming out so still not normal so i

noe need to stop taking that , bloods taken yesterday and still have stool

sample to put in but I can’t until I actually have one it’s nightmare cycle xx

I totally agree it’s so hard to know what to use what to take to try get back to bowel normality and then not knowing if bloating excess wind is through medication given or another symptom that we were there for in first place x

Hi Plink and thank you for your post.

 I'm sorry to read about your situation. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time at the moment.  It appears you have been juggling a lot in your life recently. Managing eating schedules while working shifts, looking after your children and caring for your mum is always challenging.

I am sorry to hear about your friend. When a friend or loved one receives a cancer diagnosis it can affect family and friends too. It can make you more aware of your own health and wellbeing.

Constipation  is a common problem and does not necessarily mean that anything is seriously wrong.

There are many reasons for constipation.  Feeling bloated, swollen and hard can be a side effect  of constipation.  

I can appreciate that it is very worrying waiting for test results. Try to keep yourself busy and occupied through the day, as this helps to not over dwell on things. It is helpful to read up about investigations, but limit your time Googling, as it generally increases anxiety, and not reduces it.

Anxiety UK has very useful  tips and advice on how to cope when waiting for results.

I really hope you know more soon and that everything will be okay for you.

Please get back to us if you need any more information or support.  You may find it helpful to talk things through with one of the nurses on our helpline.  The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

Kind regards,

Tina