Just living with constant confusion and not understanding

Hello - so my Mum’s cancer is actually breast cancer secondaries in the stomach and (I forget the exact terminology) cancer cells in the colon. She had primary breast cancer 7 years ago. 

She has a mole on her forearm that is now causing concern as it’s raised, bleeding and itchy so she is now having this explored. Could this actually be more cancer - skin cancer - in her arm? 

She’s now been told after her latest CT scan that she has a thickened colon lining and so has to have a colonoscopy. At 82, all of this is a lot. 

I suppose I want to know if this is how cancer progresses? I work overseas and to and fro (my brother and his wife are golden) and I honestly can’t work out what is happening with all of this which is adding to my anxiety. 

I need a blunt explanation as to how it develops, what to expect, whether this skin thing and colon lining thing are all part of the same thing. 

Her chemo has been reduced by 50% as she simply could t tolerate what she was on. 

sorry - it’s all rambling and I do feel like a ball of stress. 

thanks a lot. 

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  • Hello Lisalou24, and first of all, I am so sorry for what your Mum and you are going through.  You asked for a blunt answer, so here it is:  Yes, this is how cancer progresses.  I don't know whether or not your Mum has skin cancer or colon cancer, but frankly I wouldn't be surprised.  At this stage of the disease, the cancer starts to travel everywhere.  I am sorry if I have been TOO blunt in my reply, but I feel that you deserve to know the truth.  Once again, so sorry, and my thoughts are with you and your Mum at this awful time, x

  • Thanks a lot. And yes, I really would prefer people to be blunt - including medics, but I kinda feel that they hold stuff back. That might be unfair of me - and I know everybody is different and some people prefer a less direct approach. 

    I’ve tried researching online too but then become bogged down with medical terminology that confuses me. 

    thank you. I appreciate your reply. 

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  • Thanks a lot. And yes, I really would prefer people to be blunt - including medics, but I kinda feel that they hold stuff back. That might be unfair of me - and I know everybody is different and some people prefer a less direct approach. 

    I’ve tried researching online too but then become bogged down with medical terminology that confuses me. 

    thank you. I appreciate your reply. 

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