Stage 4 cancer

Hello wondering if anyone can help me, my mum has just been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in the womb overies spread to lungs and lymph nodes. She can’t have surgery and only been offered. Low dosage of chemo as she has copd aswell. 
we know it’s not curable. My question is. Is it really worth having the chemo ?? As it may make her really poorly also how much longer would the chemo give her if it works. I know you can’t give accurate legnths but roughly?? Also if the chemo doesn’t work what time scale roughly are we looking at please. 
desperate daughter who wants straight answers thanks 

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  • Susan, I know how you feel, I'm so numb most of the time - I have to remain strong for my parents to help them through. Mum feels helpless because she's very short of breath & can't do housework so is a burden to dad & myself.  Told her she's no burden & to use her strength to fight this cancer to give us longer with her.

    Best thing to help her is to be practical, get power of attorney, help her make a list of everything, her wants & wishes etc (amazon sell afterlife planners, what to do once I'm gone) - I know its not a nice thought process, but will help in longterm, then you can spend as much quality time with her as possible.

    If anything like our family there is already arguments & I'm the one that will bear the brunt when she's gone, but I don't care - so long as she's happy now.