Worried about my Partner!

Hello, my Partner has recently been suffering with Pain in one of his Testicles, he’s found a lump, and only just told me today that he has had this lump inside his ballsack attached to his testicle for ages he said months possibly a year or could be more… he never suffered with pain before so sort of probably didn’t tell me and he never got checked out. I’m just extremely worried about him, he said it’s probably grown but not much but it’s pea sized maybe, but now he’s in a lot of pain with it. I’m extremely worried about him because obviously I love him so deeply and I don’t have anybody else left in my life but my Partner we’ve been together 8-9 years and I’m terrified of loosing him the only person I’ve got left. 

Please give me reassurance maybe it isn’t Cancer and it could be something else? Or is anything I’m talking about sound like Cancer? I’ve read so many different thing’s Online and I don’t know what to believe, I know he’s gonna get checked out but in the meantime I don’t know how to calm down. I feel sick and shaky and terrified with fear, I keep taking deep breaths. I just wish men wasn’t so stubborn and would go as soon as they felt something there, and not wait until it was causing him pain to speak out about it or finally realise, it’s frustrating. I know he may be embarrassed, but I told him it could cost him his life, it’s so important. 

Online has been saying it’s less likely to be because usually Cancer would have developed quicker, and not been around for that long, and also seen thing’s that say the lump wouldn’t be that painful it would usually be painless? I mean I don’t know, but I’d love some reassurance but most importantly honesty. 

Thank you 

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  • Hi and thanks for your post. 

    Waiting to have tests for lumps or symptoms can be a worrying and anxious time, and unfortunately, until your partner is examined and has any tests that may be necessary, no one can tell you what has caused the lump in his testicle.

    It doesn't mean that the symptoms are being caused by cancer, and most lumps will not be cancer. However, it is best to be safe and for your partner to be checked by his GP so they can examine him and decide whether any further tests are needed. It is also important to know that if testicular cancer is found, it is very treatable and can usually be cured.

    Whilst I know it is tempting to search on the internet for answers, it is full of information that may not apply to your partner, and it certainly cannot provide a diagnosis. It can also be confusing and upsetting to read and often isn't helpful. 

    During this time of uncertainty for some people, it can be helpful to distract themselves by working or doing things they may enjoy such  as going for walks or going to the gym. Sometimes things like breathing exercises or meditation can help.

    It can be helpful to talk things through, if you would like to have a chat with one of our nurses on the helpline, the number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

    Take care and all the best

    Jemma

  • Thank you so much for reassuring me, and helping me calm down a lot more, I do go to work thinking about it and silly thoughts like what if I only have so much time left with him etc… 

    it’s hard to get out of thinking that way, it’s not easy. 

    he went to see a Doctor today but they said they couldn’t feel anything there, but my Partner felt frustrated because he said he knows he can feel the lump himself and he’s in a lot of pain with it, so feels annoyed the Doctor couldn’t feel what he is feeling.

    the Doctor has referred him for an ultrasound but says it could take a few weeks as in, they will contact within the next few weeks, but I feel down and worried about waiting because “if” it is anything like Cancer, time isn’t really on his side and waiting frustrates me.  

    Can testicle cancer be painful being that small and could it still be a cyst if it’s hard and attached to the testicle itself? Also wondering if with it being there for quite some time that maybe it’s less likely to be Cancer as it would have spread faster? 

  • Hi 

    I can't answer your question regarding testicular cancer, i am sure there are other people on this forum who are better placed to comment on that.

    What i can say is the cyst i had was attached to the testicle and very sensitive and tender, so from your description i would say there are significant similarities so there is definitely a strong possibility its not anything more sinister.

    I too was thinking the worst before i was diagnosed, so it's only natural to be concerned.

  • It’s ok, thank you so much for your reply! It’s gave me better hope and understanding, and calmed me down more. I will be sure to let you know any updates on the situation as I think it’s great to c municate over experiences.  

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