Mum has stage 4 cancer- Should I go back to uni?

Hello. I'm 19 years old and about to go into my second year of uni. My mum has just been diagnosed with stage four liver/bowel cancer and I'm not sure if I should go back to uni this year. My uni is only an hour and a half away from home, but Im worried that if I go back I won't be spending valuable time with my mum correctly. My parents have put emphasis on how important it is to keep studying, but I just don't think im going to be able to focus as well I know I can. I'm so scared about the idea of wasting time away from my mum. I have already signed my tenancy for next years accommodation, and paid my first months rent. It's going to be a big financial burden if I don't go, but im not sure if that matters in the grand scheme of things. Im just not sure what to do.

Parents
  • Hi I'm so sorry you are going through this. I recommend you contact your uni and tell them about your situation. Maybe they might be able to give you options like doing the lectures online. My uni let me do this as I'm having symptoms and I told them I wanted to be able to have flexibility with going to appointments so felt like going to uni on top of that was too overwhelming for me. However I don't know if that would be possible for you, as I was living at home anyway and travelling to uni but I still think you should tell them and hopefully they support you. 

    Best wishes for you and your mum.

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  • Hi I'm so sorry you are going through this. I recommend you contact your uni and tell them about your situation. Maybe they might be able to give you options like doing the lectures online. My uni let me do this as I'm having symptoms and I told them I wanted to be able to have flexibility with going to appointments so felt like going to uni on top of that was too overwhelming for me. However I don't know if that would be possible for you, as I was living at home anyway and travelling to uni but I still think you should tell them and hopefully they support you. 

    Best wishes for you and your mum.

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