VioletGirl 

I haven't been on here for a few weeks,and just saw your post .

Sorry to read youve had cancer twice,and that your friends daughter has  cancer . Your friend must be so upset at her daughters decision to not have conventional treatments like lumpectomy, chemotherapy  radiotherapy, letrazole  etc, and reaching out to you to help her daughter change her mind is perhaps your friend's last resort to try to change her daughters mind, and hopefully save her life. 

It's not an easy decision for anyone to make facing cancer, and it's treatments. I do think the fear of the operation on her breasts, the worry of what her breasts will look like after surgery,the pain and all the complications that could occur,or may not occur is probably scaring  your friends daughter so much, thst she's decided not to go ahead with any of the treatments thinking she will take her chances of how long she can live pain free ,with  her normal looking breasts , by taking the cb oil for the pain. 

Bless her she must be sooooo petrified of all the treatments that was offered to her.  

My advice to you although it's a difficult thing for you to do,is talk it over with your friend, explain how your feeling about it all,and say you will try to reach out to her daughter,but you must respect whatever her daughter decide to do after you talking with her.

I'd start to reach out to the daughter by saying that her mother is so worried that by refraining from the treatments offered to her  that she will lose her daughter .

Explain that you understand her fears and worry about everything and  the treatments  are scary , but not half as bad as she's imagined them to be.And tell her that the surgeons that preform these breast operations are all cosmetically trained and are experts in thier field, ( my lumpectomy was amazing ,I'm so pleased with my breast,it looks so good,you wouldn't know I'd had one,apart from a small dent near my armpit where all my lymph nodes.were removed). .

Explain about the chemotherapy that irs not as bad as shes imagined the anti sickness pills you take before are amazing that they really do work , that yes its tiring,but its zapping the cancer cells,killing them off,  and that the radiotherapy  is done weeks after chemotherapy, just to make sure no cancer  cells  are missed. Tell her everyone who has to go through this is petrified, but most of us who go through it, live on for many years after and are so grateful that they took the oncologist advice  and went ahead with all treatments that were offerd. But end the conversation with the daughter by saying ,but it is your life,  your  body  and I respect that it's your decision to make,but really think long and hard before you rule all treatments out, as  you may regret it.

I know all of that will be hard to say or do,but I think if you dig deep within yourself,what ever you decide to do,if its to speak with your friends daughter or not, your decision that you make , will sit right  with you.

Good luck with evetything, and I wish you well too.X

Thank you.   

Thank you.