Hi everyone, I'm Geoff, a 56 year old weirdo from the south of England. Here's my sob story...
I was diagnosed with kidney cancer in July 2024. Had surgery to remove the kidney, adrenal gland and lymph node.
A week later I found it had spread to my brain and I had a brain tumour. Surgery removed that in October 2024.
Then it spread to my neck, near my spinal chord, causing intense pain for a couple of months. Had radiotherapy on that and it's shrinking slowly. It's left me with reduced sensations in my right hand and legs, which may improve over time.
Since then I've had 7 lesions in my brain and all have been treated. 5 successfully but I don't yet know about the remaining 2.
I also had a blood clot in my lung, which has since gone.
I've had several bad seizures, some at home and either 1 or 2 while in hospital. Likely due to the tumour/lesions.
Immunotherapy infusions affected me badly and that led to another stay in hospital, followed by a couple of months of regular infusions of something to counter the effects.
I'm on Cabozantinib, a targeted drug. I don't have evidence that it works, so who knows, but it sure does work if it's purpose is to give you extreme diarrhoea.
It's October 2025 as I write this. After not seeing my girlfriend of 8 years since being diagnosed, the inevitable recently happened and she ended things. Oh but it's my fault of course. Sorry that I'm dying and miserable because you never visit or support me love.
I'm having counselling and go to a group weekly, when I feel physically and emotionally up to it. Everyone else there is amazing but a generation or more older than me, so I don't feel I can really connect with anyone.
I don't plan on trying to have another full on relationship for now, as it wouldn't be fair on them, plus I admit it'll take time for me to heal from who I recently lost. I would love to find something though, a companion, have long chats on the phone, long emails where we're totally open and free to be ourselves, someone who understand what I'm feeling and going through with cancer, an unknown future and nobody to love and affection. If they're not too many hundreds of miles away I'd like to meet someone, go places when I'm physically up to it, watch sunsets, sit by the sea, have a long cuddle, just nice simple things that I really miss in my life.
So that's my story. As for me, I'm a funny, honest and open guy, love talking to people but at the same time I have self-esteem and confidence issues so don't find it easy meeting people face to face, although I really do want to.
Thanks for reading this load of waffle. :)
Geoff.
