Hello, my name is Sarah. I desperately need some advice.......or maybe I just need to vent. I am 67 and a few months ago my 59 year old sister told me that she has got cancer again (this is the third time she has had it). She first got breast cancer 4 years ago, and she thought she had beat it, but it came back 18 months later. Again she had treatment and thought she had beat it, but again it has come back. She is living with me while she has her treatment. She has been told that the cancer is now metastatic. It has travelled from her breast, to her lungs and her lymph nodes. Her oncologist has put her on Letrozole, and explained that whilst the cancer is no longer curable, my sister can have perhaps 5 years or maybe more with treatment.
Here is the problem. My sister was always very active.......I suppose you could say she is a free spirit. She never married and never wanted children, although she adores her nieces and nephews and is a brilliant Aunty to them. She always went travelling on her own and she loved going for long walks amongst nature. Now however, she can hardly walk at all. She doesn't have the energy to do much at all, and she is forced to spend most of her days laying on the sofa. She is deeply unhappy, and a few days ago, she told me that she has made a decision, which frankly, I am horrified by. She says that she has decided to stop her treatment and allow the cancer to take its course. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. We had a huge argument and I told her that she had a duty to fight for life no matter how bad it gets. She has told me that for her, life is no longer worth living if she can not do the things she loves, and she doesn't want to spend the next 5 years laying on the sofa. her mind seems to be made up........please, has anyone else been in this situation? And how can I make my sister see that she is wrong?
