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Claw

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About Claw

Hi, 

I am 58 yr old & I have been happily married for 34 years to my Soul Mate & Best Friend who I truly love with all my heart.  We have 2 Beautiful Daughters & 2 Wonderful Son in laws, & 2 Gorgeous Grandaughters & 1 Amazing Grandson & 1 Daft Black Labrador.  

One moment I am enjoying my life, ... then in October 2023, what I think is a water infection, turns out to be all clear. So then I am asked about having a PSA done & I haven't got a clue what a PSA actually is.  I get it done & it's 8.2 ... then within 2 weeks ... MRI scan ... CT scan .... Bone Scan & Biopsies are all done. 

Then the Consultant sits me & my wife down in his office and tells us that my CT scan is OK, but my MRI scan is a totally different thing.  I have Very Aggressive Prostate Cancer.  Also my Biopsy results confirm this with a Gleason 9 on both sides, which is unfortunately spreading & will cause me to be in a lot of pain.  I am also told that Perineural Invasion is found on the MRI, which means that the Cancer is travelling along the nerves from the Prostate into my body.  I have also got Lymphedema in my legs, feet and abdomen because of this.

Unfortunately I cant have any treatment at all because I have had in the past two Strokes which cause damage to the brain, & also because I have Vascular Dementia & a Blood Disorder.  I was told that if I have treatment such as Chemotherapy or Radiotherapy I will die within 6 months or even during the treatment. So without treatment, I may live for just over 2 years if I am lucky, but in a lot of pain.

But when my Cancer was found Aggressive in October 2023, the Consultant isn't sure if its been aggressive from then, or 12 months before. 

My Consultant told me six words that I never thought that I would ever hear, .... "This is what will kill you". 

Everything can get turned upside down in an instant.  It's not fair that innocent, caring, harmless people get something like this. 

Life is so unfair... I am absolutely devastated & heartbroken.  For me and my family.  

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