Struggling to cope

Hi all,

i just need somewhere to let off a bit of steam, a month ago my partner had a ultra sound and they found an 8cm complex cyst in his kidney, we went for a ct scan 2 weeks ago amd are now waiting on the results which we found out yesterday we have an appointment for the 17th December, so another 2 weeks to wait.

My partner is convinced he's got cancer and is dying, I'm trying so hard to keep him positive but to be honest it is putting a huge strain on both of us. I've had to have some time off work as I'm struggling with the stress and he has been signed off for 2 weeks for the same reason.

my question really is how do you stay positive, how do I get him through the next 2 weeks when he's convinced that he is dying? He has lost a lot of weight which I think is down to stress. We have t told the kids yet as waiting on the results, so we have to try to act like normal.  I feel so lost and useless.

  • Hi Smokeydog1,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing this difficult time. It's never easy waiting for results and the uncertainty is often really hard to deal with.

    It's best to try not to assume anything one way or the other, but often this is easier said than done and so sometimes the way to deal with these feelings and the waiting time is to find tactics to keep your mind off the worries. These can include keeping busy with tasks around the house and other things, focusing on things you enjoy, and sticking to your normal routines and habits as much as possible. Take things one day at a time and try not to look too far ahead. You have the appointment coming up and prior to that there's not much that can be done, so take things slowly and one step at a time.

    Take care and I hope the remaining wait is not too difficult. Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator