Feeling lost and needing advice

Hi, I feel selfish in looking for help as I haven't been diagnosed, however my wonderful husband at 35 has been told there is a 2cm sessile polyp in his rectum and we now need to get him a CT scan. I'm terrified while he remains calm as they told him, I was hysterical. I'm sick with panic that it's spread and have gone down the doctor google route which has convinced me that it must have spread because younger people who have this wait too long for a colonoscopy - he has had symptoms for a year and has put the colonoscopy off 3 times because of work. I find myself daily grieving already at the thought my little boy could grow up without his amazing daddy. How can you combat these feelings and be strong? If anyone has any advice or has gone through something similar I'd be grateful for advice. 

  • Hello Cw1988

    I'm sorry to hear that your husband has had some ongoing health problems and that he's now waiting on further tests.

    We know that for many people this period of waiting and uncertainty can be incredibly difficult and it's natural to be worried. Often people consult Dr. Google and this is rarely if ever, a good idea as it won't give you answers about your husband's situation but will leave you feeling more anxious. Try to avoid looking online for information until your husband has answers from his Consultant. 

    What can help is to talk your fear and concerns through with someone who understands and I wonder if you'd find it helpful to have a chat with one of our team of nurses? I'm sure they would be happy to offer any advice, information, and support that they can. If you'd like to talk with them they're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. Do give them a call. 

    Hopefully, your husband won't have to wait too long for the CT scan and the team will be able to give you both some reassuring news about things. 

    Keep in touch and let us know how he gets on. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator