Can’t do this

I can't do this, I'm tearing myself apart, I've read so many stories like mine which turned out I be nothing to worry about but I've convinced myself 100 percent that I have ovarian cancer, my appointment is Thursday, 2 weeks of hell, I'm not eating, sleeping, my heart is constantly racing, can't breathe, I need this to be over

  • Bless your heart. It's such a worry isn't it. I had my test just before my period and this is booked for the same time so god knows. The man who did my scan told me it wasn't anything to worry about too. This has definitely made me more paranoid about everything now 
     

  • Why did yoh have the test in the first place? Do you have symptoms?

  • I had some horrible pains (which I suffer from ibs) so the doctor done a examination and said we need to do this test. Next thing I know I was in this nightmare. I always mentioned my periods have been strange too. I've spoke to a different doctor about my periods for ages and she never referred me for that test. Like you it's been the worst month of my life. I've now been referred to a Gynecologist for that but it all seem on going now. Now waiting for this FIT test results. I'll be devastated if that comes back wrong too x

  • Yeh I feel like I'm in a nightmare too, I want it to be over now x

  • Fingers crossed for Thursday. I know it seems like a lifetime away but it will soon be here. Let me know how it goes x

  • I waited 9 days for results of an MRI to see if my cancer had spread. It took me to the edge. I couldn't do it anymore either. By the end I too had convinced myself of the worst. Also, by the end I was thinking that anything would be better than the wait, even a 'bad' result. 
     

    One thing that helped me to wait a tiny bit was to try and tell myself that the truth was I didn't know the result, so thinking to the future and guessing a bad result was just fiction, something I had made up and convinced myself of. So, I could equally have come up with the fiction that everything was going to be ok.  Both are just as likely at this stage when the truth is you don't know. 
     

    Try not to torture yourself making something seem as if it is a reality when it may not be. The only thing you know for certain at the moment is that you do not know! You could have good news, just as much as your worst fears.
     

    My result was a good one in the end. But, I didn't feel a huge surge of relief when I found out, because I was just so traumatised by the wait. That shows me that the wait is actually worse than the result itself! 
     

    I hope you can find a way to comfort yourself. 

  • Oh honey I totally feel your pain. Waiting is the worst thing. Anxiety will play absolute havoc with you. It's horrific that we have to wait so long for tests, and then the outcomes of the tests! The waiting is beyond painful and unbearable. 
     

    As others have said- anxiety is about predicting a worst case scenario. We don't know what the outcome is until we actually know. Constantly thinking or questioning it doesn't make the outcome any more or less likey to be unfavourable. Why assume it will be bad news? Why not assume it will be good news? We kid ourselves that thinking the worst prepares us for the worst, but it doesn't. It just makes us miserable while we wait. 
     

    I know I am trying very hard to accept that I'm at a stage where I simply don't have the answers and they aren't likely to be quick either. But we must take care of our mental well-being during these difficult times and focus our energies on the things we can affect. For every worry I have, I remind myself of something reassuring e.g the lump is still there, I'm scared it's cancer. But it hasn't grown and my bloods were fine so right now as it's just as likely not to be. 
     

    Sending you positive energy and hoping for best outcomes xx

  • Thankyou, what you say is so true.. but I always think the worst and panic in every situation, I imagine outcomes for everything and they are always bad.. I'm on meds for anxiety and depression.. I wish I could change my mindset but I just can't.. my head tells me to be sensible, I have no reason at all to think anything will be found but I can't seem to accept that as even a possibility x