Hi CRM61,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

As someone who has had two bouts of breast cancer myself in the past 12 years, I can only sympathise with you. There is never a good time to break this news to the family. Most people leave it until they know what they are dealing with, but you will need some support whilst you are undergoing further tests. I found that people took the news in different ways, depending upon how I broke the news to them. 

It can be hard to play it down when you don't know what you are dealing with, but the more positive you can be about the outcome, the better people will cope with it. Is this your daughter's first child? Hopefully this will give the family something happier to concentrate upon for the coming few weeks. 

I sincerely hope that all turns out well for both yourself and your daughter. Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

This is the worst time - the waiting.  Whether you tell your family or not is a tough decision.  I would want to ask myself what would it achieve to do so?  They are bound to worry and without anything for them to go on, it is the worst kind of worry.  Your pregnant daughter doesn't need any extra stress so if you can, let them know when you have more information.  That way you can sit down together and discuss the findings and look forward.   Remember that most breast lumps are not cancerous and even if it is cancer, the treatments are fantastic.  My mother had breast cancer years ago and lived to a good age and died of something completely unrelated.

Thank you for your reply Jolamine, I have been so torn on what to do but decided I will wait until I know for certain and hopefully baby will be here by the time I have results. 
 

I will keep you posted, thank you again x

Thank you for your reply toothfairy, and agree my daughter does not need the stress x 

Hi CRM61,

DThis is probably the best thing to do. Do you have a partner or close frien who you can confide in whilst you are waiting?

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx