Scared and alone

Hi everyone,

I am reaching out as I feel I need some support and some ideas for distraction. I am 32, going through a break up after my long term boyfriend ended our relationship, trying to move out and in the process of buying a house and last week found a lump in my breast ... talk about timing! I got the lump checked out and the Doctor found more lumps she was concerned about. I have been referred to the breast clinic and they said they may just go over the 2 week referral/appointment time due to shortages. 

I am really struggling not to think the worst and I feel so alone. I just accidentally came across a post on social media to do with breast cancer and ended up reading it and now I feel even worse. Does anyone have any advice with how to manage the waiting of everything? I am trying so hard to be distracted and keep busy but it's when I relax or try to go to sleep I am worrying.

Thank you in advance 

Nic

  • Morning ,  I hope you managed to get some rest.. I am recently diagnosed with 2 breast tumours and am having surgery on Friday.  I went for my first every mammogram on the 22nd June and it has taken until about 2 weeks ago to get a final decision on my treatment plan, the hospital has been do thorough.. they would rather do 1 operation than have to do another 12 months down the line so I completely understand your feelings of worry and concern. Please try to find some reassurance from knowing that you are in the system now and and from my experience, you will be well taken care of.. i have found that keeping busy, which it sounds as though you are, is of huge importance to me and at night times, I keep a notepad beside my bed to jot down those circleing thoughts in my head while listening to an audio book until I drift off.  For me, the not knowing was the hardest but now that I have a plan, everything seems more manageable.. set yourself small goals to reach like your first hospital app, and try not to think too far ahead.. keep using this forum and talk.. talk about the same thing 100 times if it makes you feel better.  We've got this..    I wish you all the very best.. xx Nicky xx