Need some reassurance from people who understand please x

Hi guys I'm 25 years old and couple weeks ago, had my smear results, tested positive for hpv, and had low grade abnormal cells, obviously that's scary in itself, as we all want to be okay, so Anyways I had my colposcopy yesterday, and she applied the dye to my cervix and seen a few blobs of abnormal cells so she took a biopsy, she said they now look high grade and she's concerned, I'm just writing as, everyone around me is making me feel stupid for worrying, everyone keeps saying be positive don't think the worst, and I'm not thinking the worst but even if I was I feel like I should be allowed to worry and think of the possible bad outcomes, I'm preparing for the worst and hoping for the best and I feel that's a good attitude to have for me personally but everyone just keeps being sort of off about it like well your gonna be fine so don't know why your thinking that way, almost comes off like I'm not allowed to be going through something scary, it's always the way every time something happens, people around me make out like I couldn't possibly have these problems, thing is I already suffer from pcos and a bicornuate uterus, I'm just scared, can anyone please tell me if I'm being silly, also if anyone can explain what the biopsy tells you because the nurse didn't explain she just said I get a letter or something. Sorry for going on I'm just really worried xx

  • It's only natural that you would worry, its human nature but you'll probably find that others are worried and they cope by telling you not to worry.  We always put others bad attitudes down to us but it's not usually the reason, so give them some credit for being concerned but in the wrong way.  All I can say is that no matter how much you worry it will not change the outcome, good or bad!  So think positive because it truly is the best way of coping.  The biopsy should give more information as to what is going on and you will not really have much more information to work with until then.  I truly wish you a good result and hope all goes well for you.  Kind regards, Carol 

  • Hello, 

    I understand your worries but please try not to stress. I have recently been through something similar and the doctor said she thought she could see high grade cell changes so took a biopsy to confirm to decide on best treatment. However, my results came back negative and all was fine. Try to not stress about it, remember these are PRE cancerous cells and not cancer. Whilst you are awaiting your results, just think even if they are abnormal then there are treatments that can be done to simply remove them. I hope this helps :)

  • Yeah completely I truly understand how others may feel aswell, I know some of them genuinely are worried and they are so supportive, it's more like there's a few people who don't say it in a very polite or caring way, it's more like, said in a very almost negative attitude way, almost like certain people are trying to make me look like I'm being dramatic,  that's almost what the attitude comes across like " your fine stop being dramatic" just not something you want to hear really, thank you for your response I appreciate it so much! X

  • Yeah, I'm not overthinking or stressing so much I'm taking each day as it comes, and preparing for the worst hoping for the best, see it runs in my family, all my aunties and my mum have had hysterectomys because of it being aggressive and continuously coming back each time, my family are really supportive it's just my friends are trying to make out like I'm being dramatic and shouldn't worry, most of them seem and heard of my news and didn't message me, not that they need to, but then I see them and there like oh so how are you and when I try tell them they go "don't go on about it, your gonna be fine, don't know why your worrying for because there's nothing really wrong with you" and I'm just like but there is, it's not cancer I know that but it's still scary, and none of them seem to listen, ah I'm glad your all okay! Thank you for your words x