Lump in groin and neck. Waiting for results!

Hi, 

ive been reading a lot of these forums for a while now. I've had a swollen lymph node around the back of my neck and in my groin for over 6 months. Originally the doctors said not to worry, and out my groin down to ovulation as I have a lot of pain then. 

Saa new doctor last week as they haven't gone down. I'm also experiencing now bleeding around periods and main during intercourse. He's sending my for blood and ultrasounds, on both groin and neck. 
 

I've never been so scared in my life. I lost my nana to a brain tumour last November and my boyfriend has also faught cancer. So I feel very alone right now. 
 

any advice on how not to worry your brains out?

  • Hi !! 

    Sorry for the early AM reply, I'm a night owl haha. 

    Unfortunately I can't say much of advice when it comes to the lumps and bumps as it can be absolutely anything, something worrying or something that's completely safe and just popped up out of the blue. The only thing I can suggest is to keep an eye out on any new things happening like itchiness, night sweats, weight loss all those things, but it's good that you'll be getting bloods done and an ultrasound !! hopefully they come back with some good news, just keep an eye on it now and then. 

    When it comes to the feeling scared, it's completely okay to feel that way, I'm currently in remission for Hodgkins Lymphoma and when i got my diagnosis all I could think of was what's going to happen to me, of course, right? Everyone who has spotted something immediately panics, it's because it's something out of the ordinary or they just dont feel their best, whatever it is, it can be so many things before it is the big ol' C word. You will never be alone through all of this, even just by typing it out on this forum means you have a mass of people around you, and once it gets checked out, if it's nothing bad, great ! but if it comes back with some worrying results, you'll have your family around you, your partner and talking to friends about it will definitely be a good way to have a secure support group around you :) 

    Now, for advice on how not to worry your brains out starts with dont google anything ! don't go on there out of curiosity and look up different types of lumps and bumps and find a 'good enough' conclusion as that will just make you worry, panic and stress alot more than you would without having seeing it. The way I avoid worrying as much as I can (i myself am an extreme health-anxiety sufferer, but we got this) is to watch or rewatch all of your favourite shows, movies, try reading some of your old favourite books you haven't touched in forever, see friends in comfortable environments where you wont get too stressed out at. I'm currently rewatching Harry Potter for the millionth time, it's my comfort. 

    I hope everything goes well for your bloods and ultrasound scan when you do go, and if you're up for it i would love to hear an update to see how you went on :)) 

    C x