Hi [@ClarkB]‍ 

So sorry to hear what you and your sister are going through and the emotional turmoil it is causing.

Has she spoken about why she does not want the operation, is it through fear or is there something else that is causing her not to want any procedures?

I think it must be very hard for you to watch her turn down an operation that she needs, as family members we of course want to know that everything is being done to help them. 

I hope you can get to the bottom of her reasons and then try and help her through what the issue is for her to be able to come around to the idea of doing what is best for her.

And if you need to talk this forum is a really friendly place. Please keep us updated. Take care xx

Thank you for your concern i do feel sorry for her as any interventions medically she has never been able to handle very well she  also has a lesion on her kidney rhey wanted to explore but she refused .June my sister has a growth on her head she hides it under a fringe.June did allow them to take a biopsy for that which came back positive. The doctors say this is  an aggressive cancer, she pleads with me to leave it which is destressing to me. The doctors want to speak to me on next visit to hospital regards ClaekB

Hi [@ClarkB]‍ 

When my Nan was diagnosed with Cancer, it felt so awful, so worrying and you just feel scared you wish the best for your family and want them to do everything they can to make it through, at the moment I am waiting for my Dad to have some further tests to see if he has Cancer and I am really worried for him.

But when I was diagnosed with Cancer it was a completely different story, I dealt with it so much better.

You want to do what is best for your family and help them through and it can be hard when decisions they are making are not what you wish for them.

My daughter found it very difficult to cope with some of the decisions I made about my treatment.

It is good that the Doctors are going to take the time to talk through everything with you and maybe it will be easier for your Sister to hear coming from you rather than Doctors giving their spiel. If she is worried about the kinds of treatment she will have to go through or an operation where she will be put under there could be some real fear there that she is struggling to overcome. I hope that with some patience and talking things through you can both hear each other and she might be able to come to the decision to have treatment.

Take Care x

Thank you for your kind words my sister will be frightened of everything she cried and go angry at nurses and doctors I couldn't go as I was isolating a care staff went. The doctors have asked me to be at next appointment which I will be going my sister has a growth on her kidney as well which she refused treatment also so that could be cancer as well your family has had a very hard time and you also you have had cancer to I wanted to av surgery while it is at this stage to stop it from getting any bigger which will be more invasive regards Clark B