terrified I have lymphoma

hello, so im posting on here as i just can not shake my anxiety, i am 18 and relatively healthy however before christmas i noticed a pea sized lump on the left side of my neck bottom half but not at my collarbone. it is easy to move and fairly small but potentially hard? im not really sure whether youd class it as hard or rubbery or what even any of that means! i have since been to the drs who didnt seem very bothered, i had a blood test to 'ease my mind' which came back clear and so was told to wait a month and see if it went away but it didnt and i still have it now, not changed at all and still no symptoms but its still there. I rang the doctors again as they told me to if it was still there but they just werent bothered and i basically had to beg for a scan to which they told me i dont need because my bloods came back normal, however i have seen many posts regarding lymphoma and the bloods also came back fine. im just looking for some advice/trying to get my worries out because at the minute im really struggling and its affecting my mental health quite significantly, i am convinced i have cancer. if anyone reads this i would be so so grateful for any advice or maybe your own story or even just read my rant ahah i just feel like im at wits end and this is really affecting me. thanks x

  • Hi lottiie 27, I am sorry you are so stressed but even though you've had good results back you're still positive you have cancer, that is very sad for someone of your  age but it seems to be the case nowadays where there is so much information or misinformation that you always think the worst.  When I was your age this would not have even bothered me as if I felt healthy I would assume it was nothing and would just go away.  But today you have all these forums, Dr Google, etc and you all think it's the worst it will be.  The doctors are not ignoring you they have done what is necessary and said all is well but you don't believe them so what are they supposed to do?  You will find many posts the same as yours and I expect many others will pop by and say they are the same, worried still even though results have come back clear.  Maybe you need help with health anxiety and should speak to your GP about that and have some guidance on how to cope with it.  I truly wish you well as you are so young and I expect all this lockdown and lack of help is affecting many, many more young anxious people.  Take care and try to stay off cancer forums and other sites that will lead you to wrong conclusions.  Take care, Carol x 

  • thank you so much for taking time to reply to me, i truly appreciate it. i think my issue lies with my anxiety and constant fear like i could get pins and needles from sitting on my leg and convince myself its because of the lump in my neck. the reason im scared about believing the doctors is because i know someone who suffered with hodgkin lymphoma and their blood tests were clear too so im just worried that just because theyre clear theyre assuming im fine but there has to be a reason for the lumps and i just need to know whether it is cancer or not because its driving me mad. thankfully i have THE most supportive boyfriend ever and when im with him i manage to forget about it all but sometimes i feel like i need someone whos not just going to tell me what i want to hear just because they can see how stressed its making me hence why i posted on here. im being ordered a scan and so hopefully after that whether its good or bad news i can stop stressing so much because like you say with lockdown too its just not fun. but again thank you so much for replying, it really does make me feel 10x better x

  • Hi Lottie, we all know someone who has had problems with diagnosis, even my husband who had five scans before he was confirmed with stage 4 cancer but he's 75 and smoked all his life.  My parents both had blood cancer but I don't, so I could list many more problems and I'm glad the scan is being arranged but please when it comes back clear don't look for another problem.  We all get pins and needles sitting on our legs but it's because we've caused it ourselves!!  So it's good you have support but worrying gets you know where trust me I know.  After four years of dealing with cancer the worry has not helped one iota, energy is wasted, we give ourselves a headache and we have miserable days when you could be having a lovely day.  Hope all goes well.  Carol x 

  • Hi, i found a pea size lump on my neck near my ear. I went for a private ultrasound and they said everything is normal. I still worry about it though. Best thing to do is find a private diagnostic imaging centre near you and get it checked for peace of mind

  • hello again, sorry been busy with work so didn't get chance to reply, again i really appreciate you taking the time to talk to me because it does put me at ease, you're so right about the worrying, i took your advice and completly ignored it all day yesterday and had a lovely day so that was good, my boyfriend just got a new job too so focused on that which was quite helpful, i hope you don't mind but i read a few of your blog posts and although it's because of something sad you show thst life still goes on and you can still have fun which is really inspiring to me so thank you for that too. take care, lottie x

  • hello, i'm so glad everything was fine for you!! unfortunately i just don't think i'd have the money to pay for one otherwise i would! but hopefully i can get a scan from my doctors and all will be well, thanks for replying x

  • You're very welcome Lottie, anyone I reply to I keep the follow the thread to see how they get on, up to now I've not had one young person come back and say it was something bad, I know cancer is always on the news, advertising, Dr Google but I feel that it makes anxious people even more anxious.  Very pleased you had a good day and congratulations on the job situation, we're nearly out of this lockdown and life is to be lived and enjoyed not worrying about what might happen.  You take care and enjoy your young years.  Love Carol x 

  • hello, just thought i'd let you know i have an ultrasound on my neck on monday, i am scared and stressed but hopefully it will help, hope you're doing well x

  • Just remember Lottie that all the worry in the world will not alter the results, I know I've been through it.  So think positive as Norman has done that from day one and it has helped a lot, let me know how it goes.  Carol x 

  • hello again, just home from my scan and got the all clear, never been so relieved and i can finally stop stressing, thank you for your kind words you've given me i'm glad it's finally sorted now, i hope you are well and again thank you for the messages it did make me a feel a lot better, love lottie xx