Im waiting for results from my womb and overthink and go through ut all in my head again and again. Its all toohard to take in all whats said and too much to remember too.  From what the lady said its likely but she couldnt confurm anything yet.  My doc talked about ifs and buts and I will need to get a really lucky break to get away with this. So Im thinking it us cancer, but he also was talking all these things about hormones, estrogen menopause and how fat affects something and am 60 havent bled for more than 15 years. I dont know anything as it was all too much the turmois terrible., I missed lots of what he said. But I do know we dont know anything until biopsy results come back. I forgot to ssk how long to wait. I havent slept much since Monday, am still bleeding today. I did call his secretary and its 4 week wait at least,  but because i know the timescale I slept a bit.  Nothing i can do but joining here has helped just knowing theres other people waiting and have tge same feelings. It helps just sharing.

Hope it all gets sorted for you soon. Take care.

Hi Cornwall,

A very warm welcome to our forum.  I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer and a few other 'scares' in the past 11 years. On all occasions my consultant was pretty sure that I would get a cancer diagnosis after biopsy results were returned. Fifty per cent of the time he was correct, but the biopsy results showed that the other 50% were benign.

Consultants see so many patients that they have a good idea when there is a possibility of  a cancer diagnosis, even before any tests are undertaken. Howeer, it is only with the help of a biopsy that they can give a positive diagnosis. 

I found that the easiest way to deal with the possibility, was to accept that I was likely to get an 'unfavourable' result. This way I was prepared for the worst and was delighted when I was informed that my results were benign. Doctors dealing with any potential cancer situation now tell things as they find it and, this can be quite daunting at this stage.

I sincerely hope that the news next Friday is more favourable than you expect. Do please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here or you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Oh my goodness you poor thing!! This waiting is just so awful isn't it!!! I really hope you hear soon and that you can get some sleep.

Please feel free to message anytime as I'm not sleeping and around most of the time. 

Sending lots of virtual hugs xxx

So sorry you're going through this, Cornwall1! My consultant really shocked me when he told me straight up that it might be cancer after all the biopsies they asked for etc, he said he prefers to get it out in the open so people know it's a possibility and can prepare for the possibility. The wait between that appointment and the results appointment is so nerve-wracking, I know.

I really encourage you to bring someone with you for the results appointment - significant other, relative, best friend, whoever you think can be there for you and can take things in. Fingers crossed that there'll be nothing to take in because it'll all be just fine, but it's helpful to have someone with you who can take some notes and ask some questions and then take you home and give you tea and biscuits (do that regardless of the news!!).

Fingers crossed for you xx

Can a consultant say this and get this wrong??! Did this happen with you?

Thank you for your message xxxxx

Hi - unfortunately in my case he turned out to be right and it was indeed cancer, but early stage and low grade luckily.

I know people who've been told it could be cancer and then at follow-up/results appointment got the all clear. I know it's way easier said than done, but please try to be kind to yourself and hold back from going into a panic - you'll have an answer soon enough. It was 10 days between my inital breast clinic appointment and the results appointment and I was in an absolute tizzy the first three days. I sort of started to make my peace with the possibility after that, and decided to just see what happened and tried not to think about it until the appointment - made myself busier at work, tidied my house until everything shone, read three books, cooked up an absolute storm, watched lots of silly telly... :grin:

I told only four people other than my partner because I didn't want people checking in on me all the time and making me more anxious and that helped a bit. The people I told were supportive without smothering me and that was a relief!

It's absolutely understandable to be anxious and scared, or to want to pretend that nothing is happening. I went through waves of both - thinking "oh it's definitely cancer it's the end of the world" and "everything's going to be absolutely fine, no way it's cancer". Those reactions are normal <3

Hope that helps a bit xx

This helps massively thank you so much!!!

I will try to get through the next 6 days and keep myself busy! Hopefully she will be wrong!! As it really doesn't seem real and that this is happening to me.

Thank you again xxxxx

Hi Cornwall,

This is a doctor’s way of preparing us for the diagnosis that we all dread. They don’t say this lightly. In this litigious day and age they feel that it is better to be honest with their patients.

Getting told this is always a shock, no matter when we are told. Irrespective of what the eventual outcome is, you will find that it all becomes easier to deal with once you get a definite diagnosis and can move on to surgery and treatment. It is not at all unusual for us all to go into a blind panic at this stage and to think the worst, but fortunately this seldom happens with breast cancer. There are a number of different types of breast cancer and some are more aggressive than others, but diagnosis, surgery and treatment of breast cancer has made great strides in the past few years and many people are now living with it.

I lost my mum to secondary breast cancer and there is just no comparison between what we both experienced along our cancer journeys. The fact that I am still here is testament to the knowledge and skills of my care team throughout the past 11 years. Even after 2 bouts of cancer, I am still living a busy and fulfilling life.

I agree with Luna. It is always a good idea to take someone with you when you return to get your results. Here in the UK with the current pandemic restrictions, we are advised not to bring anyone with us for our general appointments, but are usually permitted to bring someone with us when we attend for results. These normally take 1-2 weeks to come through after your first visit. It is also a good idea to draw up a list of any questions you may have in advance and, to get whoever accompanies you to jot down the answers as you chat to your consultant. You will find that it is all too easy to forget important facts in the heat of the moment during your consultation.

Try not to panic. What will be will be. If you get a positive diagnosis, you will get the strength to deal with it. We find that the more positive we can be in ourselves the easier it is to cope with everything.

I shall be thinking of you on Friday and hoping for favourable results. Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you so much for your honest and kind message xxxx