Hi Grambo

Im sorry you feel alone and not getting support from family.

You didnt say whether your mother is elderly but you mentioned compus mentus,so Im assuming she is older.

Is it possible the sore is itchy esp at night and she may be scratching it and preventing healing,older skin doesnt heal so quick.

Begging her to seek advice is possibly transferring your fears. Why not say to her that you are worried that it may get infected and point out that she wont want to end up spending hours in AandE when a few minutes at surgery would do.

One thing I can tell you is that my daughter got very pushy with me to phone GP she said she will go into surgery herself if need be.That didnt go down well with me. Theres concern and theres being too pushy.If your mother lives on her own like myself she will be very used to making her own decisions, so a bit of gentle encouragement will perhaps help.

Take care. Hope all goes well xx

Hi Clara,

Thanks for taking the time to reply. Very much apprecated.

Mother is in her 70s. And in good health apart from this. 

I think you probably are right about transferring fears. Mainly because I am afraid! 
But havent looked at it from the other person's point of view.
A more calm approach might (hopefully) help.

Mom does love alone - and is very independent.

Thanks Clara

G

Hi Grambo

Yes independance is not always a good thing but is the one thing older genereration clings on to. Like myself with my driving license lol  my car lies in drive mostly but dont take it away from me.Also going into a care home is my definate no no.

Perhaps seeing the perspecitive of the older mum/dad will help to understand why showing independance is so important. Even though a care situation never enters your thoughts it probably will for your mum.

I so hope that you will get things resolved via a gp for your mum and you can enjoy your relationship for a long time to come.

I know these restrictions are making things hard with this virus but try and keep any contact as much as you can,its so difficult for those on their own at this time.

Take care and best wishes xx