I just bumped the other post up for you to find it quickly. The advice is near the end of the thread on subungual melanomax

Thank you Sunny, I'm trying is hard to not think about it but it's really bad today with the tears and nothing seems to be helping me 

will have a look now 

Claire xx 

Hi Claire,

Hope you're feeling a little better now.

I'm just going out for a walk. There were some days not so long ago I would cry while walking. But the walking did help. Think it was just the shock of everything and COVID and... Well you know how life is sometimes.

Hope all goes well for you tomorrow. Have you got a list of any questions you want answered ready to take?

Also take a cold drink perhaps. Letter... etc.  Putting what you need ready for clinic might help distract you. Hopefully some sleep. 

Don't forget your mask! Anything else you got to take? Just prompting a bit as you've had such a tough day.

Take care. Thinking of you. Sunny x

Hi Sunny, 

I don't think I am if I'm honest, just all over the place. My boyfriend is coming with me we'll do t know if if he will get in or will have to wait in the car. 
 

I have things in my head I want to ask, I just hope they take one look and say everything's fine. I don't know how I will cope waiting for test results. Do you know if sometimes they will look and say it's fine even after a doctors looked at it or most likely a biopsy? 
I keep trying to tell myself all the good stories people have shared on here. And I keep telling myself that moles do have a life span and can cha he without it being sinister. I know it sounds silly but I have photographed it ever since I went to doctors and it's not changed so I'm trying to take comfort in that. 
I hope to sleep but I doubt it, was awful last night. I have been putting funny tv shows on my iPad and falling asleep to them. 
my partner and family keep telling me not to worry and they are sure it will be okay. We are supposed to view a house on Saturday and I just don't know if we should :-/ 

thanks for checking up on me 

Claire 

Hi Claire,

I know how stressed out you must be but try to organise yourself for tomorrow's appointment. Write your questions down, the consultants are used to patients doing this. Your partner may not be able to go in to the consultation with you so you may need to make notes in case you forget what's been said. The consultant will more than likely examine your mole with a dermascope - this hand held microscope shows any unusual activity in the cells of the mole. If it looks fine they will discharge you. If they aren't sure or it looks suspicious they will arrange for it's removal for biopsy. Even if it's removed for biopsy it doesn't mean it will definitely come back as melanoma - a post has just been put on the forum today from someone who went through exactly what you are going through and it came back benign so don't despair. And don't change your house viewing plans - you don't want to miss out on the home for you because of something that may turn out to be fine. Deep breaths, keep positive and good luck. 

Angie xx

Thanks Angie, I have been a mess today just so scared. I really am hoping for a discharge, like everyone. I'm going to write things down tomorrow morning before the appointment and hopefully have a clearer head. I didn't sleep much last night so have been all over the place. i spoke to my family and they said I have always been a big worrier and panic about everything. 
 

I just want to say how much I appreciate you and sunny coming back to my posts, I know have had a few threads now and you both have helped me so much 

Claire xx 

Hi Angie & Sunny, 

just wanted to give you an update - so I was a lot calmer this morning but still nervous and scared appointment over run by an hour which didn't help however my book was a good distraction!! So I saw the consultant who specialises in moles and he checked it and I'm all clear!!!! Have been discharged!!! He took some photos of a few of my moles and he's happy. He said if I do have anxiety over it it can be removed but he doesn't think it's worth it, he only removes them if there is a real need and he said they are all innocent :-) 

I will do another post about my experience in a little bit to share my journey and the hope it helps people going through similar. 
 

thank you so much for both your support, it has been amazing and thank you for "listening" to me 

Claire 

That's wonderful news Claire. I'm so glad that they could put your mind at rest & that it wasn't the news you dreaded. Also, thank you for putting the result on here so that others can see that a referral doesn't always mean it's cancer! Enjoy your house hunting, Angie xx

Hi Claire - that's fabulous news... And thank you for the speedy update. 

Hope your house-hunting goes well at the weekend. Take care now. Sunny xx