Hi Deedee4321 how are you feeling coping now or did you overcome all of this? Hope to hear from you

Hello Daniel, would you be able to send me this info?. Hi Dee Dee I am feeling exact same feelings as you. Any advice to overcome? I'm thinking about GP. Found out our loft is contaminated with asbestos after having two holes cut through the loft from bathroom and en suite. We actually realised they cut through textured coating ceilings after the fact which came back negative for asbestos afterwards so I was ok, but we got a survey and it turns out there is white and brown asbestos in our loft (contaminated vermiculite insulation not sure when). The company can't (?) say percentage. Been unable to function for a week now, paralysed at the thought of putting my kids at harm. Can't eat. Thinking of times the ceilings were changed (eg lights hanging down from loft leaving gaps to loft, some insulation fell in the bath), bringing Christmas tree box down each year. We have a hole in our cupboard to loft. 
mainly I am paranoid about potentially exposing my children to something dangerous (I don't even give them ham as worried about Bowel cancer link). I probably have anxiety about cancer in general, and try to minimise my risk so I am so angry with myself that I didn't check this earlier. I work with lung cancer drugs so I am hyper aware. I feel overcome with anxiety that I have harmed my children or myself. 
 Just really looking for advice how to "re-frame" the risk....

Thank you Se111, I am so sorry to hear what you have been through. I hope you are back to enjoying your family. I guess it's the unknown risk. I'm a scientist and have been spending all week looking up data, trying to find exposure-response stuff. I don't want to have this hanging over me, but it's so hard. I dont want to Spend hours pouring over articles, trying to find something to put my mind at ease. My dad is the main person to have been in our loft and he is not really bothered at all by it. I wonder if it is a personality type. I guess being younger you think anything is achievable and as you get older and have kids you realise awful things can happen and you become "aware" that you cannot control everything in your life (eg my family member dying 40 of cancer). I work in cancer drug development which keeps it all at the forefront!!! 

Yes exactly I think your right personality type. I'm not going to change who I am so got to keep on fighting I feel I have been knocked back 20 years haha. Your right about not being able to control everything to just survive. This is just another form of life trying to pull you down if your not into other destructive behaviours. Yep getting their with family things have changed though.

Hi Daniel, I'm going through exactly the same at the moment. I found out that some pipes going up from our kitchen ceiling into our bedroom have been exposed for 12 years with asbestos lagging just coming through the ceiling. It was just above the kitchen door so every time the door closed it would've disturbed it. The lab said it was the dangerous form and very friable. I have 3 children under 12. I know that I was first exposed from the renovations we did 12 years ago which is hard enough but to find out it's been hanging above my kitchen door all these years on a daily basis fills me with terror for my children. I wonder if you'd be kind enough to send me the details of the professional and charity? I really need some help. I've been having some very dark thoughts. Many thanks. 

Have you found anything that's helped ease your mind or at least quieten it? 

Did you ever see any information that helped you? 
 

I managed to mistakingly cut through AIB boards in my garage. The research I've done on the internet suggests the worst but when talking to organisations they tell a different storey. I think I've just accepted the worst will probably happen in my case but hope I've got some time to enjoy my young family. 

Hi there, I'd like to say yes but unfortunately not. No one got back to me and the internet hasn't helped at all. I'm sorry you're in the same boat. It really is a life changing experience! 

My frustration is that we have got a lovely little boy and my wife wants a second child. I worry that the effect of this exposure on me will leave my wife with two lovely little people. I'm not sure that's very fair. 
 

The gp has already had to put me on medication because my heart rate has gone up substantially and I was having chest tightness. it's only been 6 months since my incident and my body feels like it's falling apart which is scary. The people I've spoken to say it can't be from asbestos so quickly but I can't see it could be anything else. 
 

Knowing there's no way of being treated is the worst thing in this situation for my brain.